Our visit to an experimental School- Prayog Bhumi

Friendship-A Journey

It is his last day in the city. He is shifting for higher studies. A complete silence between them. At a moment, he just hold her hand, little tight.  She could sense the meaning of this act.  She is able to understand  what he is trying to tell her without uttering a single word.  

No, they are not couple, they are besties. “Best friends- forever is what they call each other.

It is the toughest moment of their relationship. They know that they are not couple, however they need to convince their close ones about this.

Just because of the gender difference,  they don’t want to label their friendship as “Love”. She is  little more sorted out than him and she  is  clear with her thoughts on their  “special Friendship”. Yes, it is more than just being “Friends”.  Care, love, rights, responsibilities, understanding, trust,   everything is there in this relation.

They  are  friends for years now, seen all ups and downs together.  Both of them  have reached such a comfort zone in their relation , so that even silence can speak.

But life was cool for them till this day.  They are in the same city, & could  meet  almost every day.  Somehow, they are thinking  that this day is the biggest hurdle of their friendship and may be a  first step towards a change in the current situation.

People around them, have tried to convince them that “It’s a love”. This has started from   two years and  actually both  are  irritated with this. It’s even upsetting sometimes.

Why people are labelling their relationship? Is   it really so difficult  to be just friends? Yes, the emotional bond is very very strong between them. But that does not mean that the they will tie a knot with each other as life partners.

It  is almost  three years now after their graduation and they are  fortunate enough to  be in the same city, for pursuing their dreams & carriers. The journey of their life is just started,  towards  their dreams.  And their dreams are different, and their paths are also  different . But they just wanted to ensure each other that they going to be with each other forever.

They never find their friendship in a complex shape, & things are pretty clear in their mind.  

They never felt such kind of possessiveness, never had feeling to get along with each other as husband and wife. In fact, she remembered that once she had even told  one of their  friend,  that they never attracted to each other as a couple, and  even never felt that kind of physical intimacy in their relationship. She was just trying to prove her point that please don’t categorise our friendship in “Typical Bonds””.

But yes, now this is a turning point for them, it’s his last day in this city. They realised that the relation is moving towards virtual communication now, and it’s really tough for them.

They are so addicted to share everything with each other. Sometimes even not uttering a word could said all about their moods & worries.  But then, all this is very easy when you meet in person and not connected virtually.

From last two – three years, somehow they are preparing themselves to face this moment. They know very well that this time is gonna come in their life.

Somewhere she knows, it’s a turning point; but he is not ready to accept it.  She told him

“I will be there for you forever, trust me! Even, if I will be busy in my routine, I will make sure that you never be left alone. I am so confident about us.  We will be best friends forever.  We know that ‘what  we are for each other’ and let us  not prove  it to others. There are very few  people in  our lives  who are  more than a friend,  & they are friend – philosopher – guide for us. You need their presence, wishes, support & unconditional love forever & its energy in your life.

 Even if, one day we will find our life partners, they can’t  replace us, and our relationship. Trust me, don’t take such emotional burden of anything now. We have reached at a level, wherein this physical distance hardly matters for us. I will come to you whenever you need me the most and I know the same will be reciprocated.  Remember, we need each other in life.

 We don’t judge each other and  we have accepted each other as we are. This is the beautiful side of this relationship. This is  not gonna  happen in any other form of relationship.

You know, sometimes even I felt, that if we want to be forever with each other, then may be  getting married is the simplest way. But, I know that we both will prefer  to be true  to ourselves and  I know pretty well that we are certainly not in love, I mean we love each other; but we don’t want to change our relationship. Let us respect our relation,  feelings and this special bond.

Let people around us also understand that just because  we are of opposite gender, our friendship can’t be named or labelled . In fact, we know that sometimes we are more comfortable and give each other a better advise because of the gender difference, its and advantage of our relationship .

I know, if we tied our note with  our better half and will get busy with them, with kids , with  the increased responsibilities and may be will feel that the distance between us  is increasing. But trust me, still we will be there with each other forever.  The feeling that you are there for me and I am there for you gonna make a difference in our lives. 

Let us decide today. Once in a year we will spend time together, just both of us, at least a week and in any circumstances.  Whenever we will find our life partners, let us tell them about  this. We can do this. Let us believe in our friendship and start a new journey”

He  is so relaxed after this conversation. He  is  all ready to move now, with a feeling that he is not alone in this world, his friend gonna be there with him forever. It’s a first step towards  a new journey of their  special friendship.

Happy friendship Day to all of you!!!  Friendship does not have boundaries of Cast, religion , age and gender.

“if you really like this start of new journey of friendship, between her & him, pls tell me. Even if you wanted to know more about their journey, let me know, I will continue to keep posted you on the same, and never know if  this can journey could be a good story in itself!”

-          Sheetal  Joshi