Just Say - I Miss You!!!!

Just Say - I Miss You!!!!

 Three beautiful words , more meaningful than " I Love You". But how many times we  express this feeling? If we don’t   feel it  for anyone in life then,  we are too insensitive to be a human being.

Is it really so important to express it ?  Does this gonna make any change in life ?

Yes, it is important to accept it & say it.  We just cant run away or avoid the emotions. Expressing is equally important, to give a  meaning to your feelings.

 Many a times, we hesitate to express some of the feelings. Sometimes, dear ones are around us, but we miss certain special moments with them, but we never say it.   Sometimes we really miss some people, special in our life. It normally happens that everyone moves on in life & people who  are special at some point of time are past now.  However, sometimes we really miss them; but don’t dare to go back to them and express it.

I don’t want to make it as generalized statement; but my observation is, we hardly believe in expressing our feelings openly, especially in Indian culture. Holding back our emotions is treated as the sign of mannerism. . And we carry the clouds of emotions in mind.

Emotional intelligence is not about being strong & holding back the emotions actually.

Even an extrovert person like me , will  avoid to  convey this feeling , though I  am convinced that my feeling is so genuine!!!!!! And  then we never express this. Keeping such feelings and thoughts unfold, sometimes build up unnecessary stress & we neglect it.

Most of the times expressing the feelings strengthens the relationships, &  give  the relief  from  such stress. Genuinely just saying what we feel,  help  us to  be  more comfortable to concentrate and tackle the tensions & stress we are facing in so many other aspects of life. Some of the things & people I do really miss a lot and this article is for all  of them and all such  memorable moments which I have treasured for whole of my life.

I am taking this opportunity to express it!!!
 

A blossom of a Jasmine takes me back in the childhood memories. I was   just 6 years old.   Entrance gate  of the residence was decorated with the Jasmine creeper. Every evening, I used to climb the gate, picked up the flowers. Making the strings from these jasmine  flowers in various patterns  is really skillful & creative job. My mom taught me most of them. ..I miss those golden days but probably I never told my mother,  that even today  I  remember those evenings spent with her  with and I miss them.  Those were the days of innocence, I spent with my mom, dad and younger sis.

Black & white classics  have  special space in my musical world.  I could sense my  first musical memories, whenever I listen those beautiful compositions. We  had a small book type tape recorder (Philips it was)  & my dad had  an awesome collection of Bollywood classics.  

We grown up listening to the  B & W classics, Indian Classical by Late Pandit Bhimsen Joshi, Dr Vasantroa Deshpande,  Kathaktahn by Pu La Deshpande, Shankar Patil , Va Pu Kale..  These great artists were part of my childhood and my life is enriched with all these memories forever. 

This  tape recorders were great source of entertainment for us. Even they recorded our initial creativities,  of course it is gonna sound silly now. But may be that has developed the hobbies for poems, story narration, passion for theater.

I even remember that  we have full liberty to buy the cassettes; if the music is really good.  I am thankful to my parents for the same, and I really miss those days, but I never express it.

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Festivals are always special with lots of memories, but they became more special  for me every time, with mom’s creativity. She could manage science & art in her life. She pursued both of them by giving equal weightage . My memories of festivals are attached with her passion of stitching  & fine embroidery work. She used to work late in the nights & early in the morning & just  get the perfect dress for me and Sis.

Today, even I buy an expensive branded stuff, it does not give me that special touch.

 I thank my mom many a times but I never  told her that I  miss her special touch  & the surprise element in those moments,

Friends are always special  in this journey of life. School & college days are even more fancy with friends.

Rangpanchami was a really special festival  for me, in school & college days. Annual exams were held eight after it; but we used to play the Rang all the day.  Its weird but I remember a strange memory of having watermelon right after the pack up for Rangpanchmi.   Diwali & summer holidays  were just filled up with fun  & nothing else.

Outdoor games in the morning & evening was  the routine, Afternoons were  filled up with lots of books. Rehearsal for theater play, indoor games.  Bhel & Ice cream party was  a equally common during al these days & we were actually happy with all such small pieces of joy.  Many of these friends are just FB friend now and some of them I even don’t know where are they ; but I must say whenever  I see  school going kids doing such “ Kalla”, I miss you guys, I really do.

I remember the fun  I had  with my cousins in these vacations. A lot of  cycling , Movie plans, evenings on playgrounds. We literally  used make a timetable with slots to play video games to avoid the conflicts L

Whenever I see a group of teenagers continuously  talking, almost endlessly & everyday, saying goodbye 100 times and still continuing with all dream sequence talks, I miss my all  my best buddies. I even didn’t remember what was so special we used to share every day, but it was important that time.  I saw  & shared my dreams with them. Most of you are in touch with me; but still I wanna say I miss you guys !!! I really do. I miss the meeting points , my home was  the one J,  Ganne Ka juice center, college steps & what not. We never had  a great amount of pocket money, but happiness cant be buy with bucks guys.

I miss sharing of journals, submissions, Floppies, CDs , career dreams &  secrets too J.

You know sometimes, we can’t say and tell someone that “ I  miss you”, because we are afraid of the  response. We expect a reciprocal with same feeling & intensity. We should learn not to expect & just learn to say our emotions.

 And this for you my better half & best friend.  There are so many moments I miss you. We are living under a same roof; and still I miss you, sounds stupid but its genuine.

A beautiful sunset, a wonderful poem, a bouquet of flowers, a cup of tea, a rainy evening are just few moments, I miss you whenever you are not around. I miss ypu when I am tensed, tired, speechless, angry, happy , sad and…………………

Hardly  I  expressed  it with these three words “ I miss you” .

Just want to say I miss You,  you all !!!

Just go and tell your loved one that how much you miss them and how much you love them. It feels better, really!!! . The best way to handle the emotions is to express them.

Just Say - I Miss You!!!!

- By Sheetal Joshi.